I am 28, female, and bi. My fiancé is 36, male, and straight. Before we got together, I was notorious for occasionally sleeping with my female friends. He made it clear that being with him meant no more sex with other women. "Cheating is cheating," he says, and he's not into threesomes. It's a long-term, nonnegotiable deal breaker for him.

I am 28, female, and bi. My fiancé is 36, male, and straight. Before we got together, I was notorious for occasionally sleeping with my female friends. He made it clear that being with him meant no more sex with other women. "Cheating is cheating," he says, and he's not into threesomes. It's a long-term, nonnegotiable deal breaker for him.
But recently, while traveling, I met up with an old female "friend." We got a little drunk, kissed, cuddled, and slept in the same bed. I didn't mention it to my fiancé because I felt like it wasn't really a big deal. Now I'm not so sure. Throughout our relationship, I've satisfied my desires for women with lesbian/bi erotica and masturbation, and I've been fine with that. But now I'm having sexual dreams about this girl. It's been three years since I had sex with a woman and I miss it. Should I talk to my fiancé about this before the wedding?
Bi Bi Bridie

Oh for crying out loud. YES, YOU SHOULD TALK TO HIM ABOUT THIS BEFORE THE WEDDING. Talk about your bisexuality, his irrational ultimatums, the fact that you've already come this close (picture me holding my thumb and index finger a clit's width apart) to cheating on him already—address all this shit before you two dumbfucks get married.
I'm sorry for flying off the handle, BBB, but I debated an antigay ranter on CNN last week after the California Supreme Court ruled that same-sex couples had a constitutional right to marry. The hater—Tony Perkins of the Family Research Council—insisted that high rates of heterosexual divorce are proof that gay people shouldn't be allowed to marry. I'm not sure how that works exactly. I mean, when a group of people have proven themselves to be incapable of touching something without totally fucking it up—heterosexuals and marriage, Republicans and government—it doesn't make sense to insist that the screwups, and only the screwups, should be allowed to touch that thing. Maybe the solution for marriage/governance is to ban heterosexuals/Republicans from marrying/governing—or at least suspend them—and let someone else have a crack at it.  Back to you, BBB: Before you marry this man, you need to hammer out an agreement, something you both can live with—and you clearly can't live without pussy. An accommodation has to be made or you will eventually cheat on him and your entirely predictable divorce will be held up by douchebags like Tony Perkins as proof that my boyfriend and I shouldn't be allowed to marry. Don't let that happen.

I'm madly in love with my girlfriend. She's beautiful, intelligent, and progressive. Serious "the one" potential here. One problem: My girlfriend is adamant that she will not get married until everyone, regardless of sexual orientation, is free to marry. So where do I sign up to fight for equal marriage rights?
Adam In British Columbia

So... your girlfriend isn't going to get married until everyone can—including gay men in Saudi Arabia (where they cut the heads off gay men), lesbians in Jamaica (where they lynch lesbians), and homos in Russia (where fascist thugs beat homos). You might not want to set a wedding date anytime before, oh, June of the year 2608.
Please tell your girlfriend from me, a geigh, that we don't want straight people to stop getting married—divorced, yes; married, no—particularly straights up in Canada, where everyone already can get married. If she wants to do something constructive about equal marriage rights, tell her to make a large donation to www.equalityforall.com, the group working to defeat an anti-gay-marriage amendment to California's state constitution that will be on the ballot this fall
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